This is another wise statement about that of my mother. Don’t kill the flower before it gets its chance to bloom.’ I’m not a gardener yet, but I’ve got it on good authority that flowering plants need to be planted and tended well before they can mature. The same theory fits with men, whether they are in families, jobs, religions, or marriages.
Ultimately, it’s about making the choice to believe in others, setting them up for success, recognizing that ultimately our success depends on their success.
If we were the kind of person or father / mother or director or minister or partner who would put the other person down, we would put ourselves down because crushing the flower before it blossoms in the first place defeats the entire purpose of planting the flower.
Who is partnering with someone to crush them?
Nevertheless, the unfortunate thing is that we are too often in these relationships. The promise was burnt when the trip was far too early. Otherwise, the little buds were mangled over the longer run time and again. There was no chance of regeneration. And when a fatal moment condemned what was such a promising relationship, I experienced it personally.
Going back to my wife’s analogy, all relationships are holy, and all people are holy. We must, of course, choose the right person and the right people to be in contact with. And once that choice has been made, all the following choices revolve around maintaining the relationship, which is keeping it alive, keeping it flourishing, hoping for the fruit of growth, and hoping to see it at the right time in full bloom.
Don’t crush the flower before it’s blossoming.’
Relationships will inevitably require a lot of us: patience, kindness, self-control, loyalty, kindness, compassion. Only in our closest relationships can we carry out these qualities that we want to see in full bloom when we, ourselves, live out the physiognomies of character of Christ.
Of course, protecting and nurturing what is in our best interest to protect and nurture is in our best interests. If we don’t protect and nurture what’s within our control to protect and nurture, it’s going to cost us a lot. This should not be our primary motivation, but a solid motivation is still necessary.
There are so many types of people naively susceptible to abuse to post-traumatic stress disorder. It’s the most and toughest crushed fragile plant. It is the vulnerable person who is up to the point of trauma to be hurt.
From a pragmatic point of view, it may take some time to bear fruit in the blooming of beautiful flowers from the expenditure of encouragement. But in this world, that is our purpose: for the Kingdom to come in the people we represent.
We know that when those lives around us thrive, our lives are thriving.